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I Don't Know What I Feel

Someone asks how you feel about something that just happened - a breakup, a job loss, your father's cancer diagnosis - and you go blank.

You know all the words now. Gaslighting. Narcissist. Triggered. Boundaries. And somehow your relationships still aren't working.

The exhausting performance of being 'easy to talk to' and how it cuts us off from the very connection we're desperate for.

We don't build walls to keep people out. We build them to keep ourselves in. That's the truth about emotional protection.

Mental health has become another performance to optimise and track. What you actually need is the capacity to stop coping so hard.