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Therapy & Counselling in CroydonFor when you can't keep pretending
If you've found your way here, something's not working.
The hidden struggle
Maybe you cry in your car after work. Maybe you're awake at 3am with that feeling in your chest you can't name. Maybe you're fine until someone asks "how are you really?" and you want to leave the room.
You're holding it together. Work gets done, bills get paid, you show up for everyone who needs you. But there's this gap between how you look and how you feel. Between what people see and what's actually going on.
What I do
I'm a BACP registered therapist working with individuals and couples. Not the kind who gives you breathing exercises or tells you to think positive. The kind who helps you explore why you keep ending up in the same mess, with the same types of people, feeling the same kind of empty.
Psychodynamic therapy explores how unconscious patterns from your past shape your present relationships, emotions, and behaviour.
We meet weekly and talk about what's really going on. Not the version you tell your friends, not the story you've polished. The actual truth of it.
Sometimes we'll talk about your childhood - not because I think everything's your mother's fault, but because your early life is where you learned the rules you're still following. The ones that made sense when you were seven but are wrecking you at thirty-seven.
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You might understand your anxiety perfectly and still be controlled by it.
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When other therapy didn't work
Many people find me after CBT taught coping strategies but some patterns still didn't shift. Or counselling felt supportive but left them still stuck.
You might understand your attachment style, can name your triggers, have even traced it back to childhood. But understanding it intellectually may still not have changed enough.
Psychodynamic therapy asks why you keep doing the same things even when they're not working. It looks at the unconscious stuff - the things you do without knowing why. If understanding hasn't led to change, perhaps the work is to understand what you're not understanding.
This work is hard, but it's held
Therapy isn't about feeling better straight away. Sometimes you feel worse before you feel different. You'll discover things about yourself you've been avoiding. You might get angry about things you thought you were fine with. You could grieve things you didn't know you'd lost.
Something can shift when you stop pretending. When someone sees the worst bits and doesn't look away. When you finally say the thing out loud and the world doesn't end.
What opens up
When this work is useful, people often describe something more specific than "feeling better": being less controlled by reactions they didn't choose, with less energy locked up in managing themselves.
Relationships can shift without being forced. Decisions can come from somewhere deeper than anxiety. The gap between how you look and how you feel can start to close - not because you've learned to perform better, but because there's less to hide.
You don't have to arrive ready
You can come defended, cautious, sceptical. You can show up performing. That's what you've learned to do, and I'm not going to rush you past it. The defences that got you here may have kept you going for a long time. They're not failures to overcome. They're information about what you needed. We'll work with what's underneath when you're ready. Not before.
Who this is for
People who are tired. Properly tired. Not just need-a-holiday tired but can't-keep-pretending tired.
You don't need to know what's wrong. You don't need the right words for it. You just need to know that what you're doing isn't working anymore.
Maybe you've never talked to anyone properly. Maybe you've been putting everyone else first for so long you've forgotten you exist. Maybe you're successful on paper but feel like you're drowning.
This isn't counselling that teaches you to cope. It's therapy that helps you understand why you needed to.
The practical bits
Individual therapy
First meeting £120
90 minutes, then £70 per session
- 50-minute sessions, weekly or twice-weekly
- In person in Croydon or online outside the USA and Canada
- Evening and daytime slots available
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Couples therapy
First meeting £150
90 minutes, then £100 per session
- 50-minute sessions, weekly
- In person only, both partners attend together
- Evening and daytime slots available
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