Therapy for grief and bereavement in Croydon
When you're supposed to be fine by now
Key facts
- BACP registered #197852
- Croydon practice
- Individual therapy £70
- Couples therapy £100
- 50-minute weekly sessions
- Couples therapy in person only
It's been six months. A year. Two years. People have stopped asking how you're doing. They expect you to have moved on. But the grief hasn't moved. It's changed shape maybe - less raw, more like background noise - but it's still there.
Or maybe it's the opposite. Everyone else is devastated and you feel... nothing. Numb. Guilty for not grieving properly. Wondering what's wrong with you that you can't access what you're supposed to feel.
Grief has no timeline
There's no right way to grieve. No stages you move through in order, no acceptable timeframe for feeling better. Some losses take years to metabolise. Some never quite finish.
Grief isn't just about death. It's about any loss: of a relationship, a version of yourself, a future you thought you'd have. Sometimes you're grieving something that happened decades ago but nobody ever acknowledged as a loss worth mourning.
Psychodynamic therapy makes space for grief to be as complicated as it actually is. For the anger underneath the sadness. For the relief mixed with the guilt. For grief that comes in waves years later. For grief that never came at all.
What we'll do
We meet weekly and sit with whatever form your grief takes. Not to rush it, not to make it more manageable, just to be present with it.
Sometimes we'll talk about what you lost. Sometimes we'll talk about the relationship as it actually was - complicated, maybe, not the sanitised version. Sometimes we'll just sit in the weight of it.
Grief needs a witness. Someone who won't tell you it's time to move on, that at least they're in a better place, that everything happens for a reason. Someone who can tolerate the rawness of loss without trying to fix it.
The work isn't to get over it. It's to find a way to carry it that doesn't crush you.
Common questions
- How long should grief last?
- There's no should. Grief takes as long as it takes - months for some losses, years for others, sometimes a lifetime in some form. The question isn't when you'll 'get over it' but how you'll learn to carry it. Therapy doesn't rush grief; it makes space for it to move at its own pace.
- What if I feel relieved someone died?
- That's more common than people admit, especially after long illnesses, difficult relationships, or when death ended suffering. Relief doesn't cancel out love or grief - it sits alongside them. Therapy can help you hold the complicated mix of feelings without judging yourself for having them.
- Can therapy help with grief from years ago?
- Grief from years ago can still be brought to therapy. Sometimes losses that happened decades ago are still affecting you, especially if you were not able to grieve at the time, if the loss was minimised, or if you never had anyone to witness it.
- What if I'm grieving something other than death?
- Grief isn't only about death. Divorce, job loss, health changes, estrangement, the end of a friendship, losing a version of yourself or a future you expected - these are all real losses that deserve mourning. Therapy treats all grief as valid.