Bereavement & Grief Therapy
When you're supposed to be fine by now
It's been six months. A year. Two years. People have stopped asking how you're doing. They expect you to have moved on. But the grief hasn't moved. It's changed shape maybe - less raw, more like background noise - but it's still there.
Or maybe it's the opposite. Everyone else is devastated and you feel... nothing. Numb. Guilty for not grieving properly. Wondering what's wrong with you that you can't access what you're supposed to feel.
There's no right way to grieve. No stages you move through in order, no acceptable timeframe for feeling better. Some losses take years to metabolise. Some never quite finish.
Grief isn't just about death. It's about any loss: of a relationship, a version of yourself, a future you thought you'd have. Sometimes you're grieving something that happened decades ago but nobody ever acknowledged as a loss worth mourning.
Psychodynamic therapy makes space for grief to be as complicated as it actually is. For the anger underneath the sadness. For the relief mixed with the guilt. For grief that comes in waves years later. For grief that never came at all.
We meet weekly and sit with whatever form your grief takes. Not to rush it, not to make it more manageable, just to be present with it.
Sometimes we'll talk about what you lost. Sometimes we'll talk about the relationship as it actually was - complicated, maybe, not the sanitised version. Sometimes we'll just sit in the weight of it.
Grief needs a witness. Someone who won't tell you it's time to move on, that at least they're in a better place, that everything happens for a reason. Someone who can tolerate the rawness of loss without trying to fix it.
The work isn't to get over it. It's to find a way to carry it that doesn't crush you.