Trauma Therapy
When the past won't let you go
People tell you to move on. Get over it. It was years ago. But your body hasn't forgotten. The past shows up in ways you can't control: the sudden panic, the numbing out, the way certain situations make you feel like you're back there again.
You've tried to think your way through it. To understand what happened, to make sense of why. But trauma doesn't live in the part of you that thinks. It lives in the part that reacts before thought is possible.
Trauma isn't the event itself. It's what stays undigested afterwards. The feelings that had nowhere to go, the reactions that made sense then but trap you now, the parts of yourself that got frozen at that moment.
Maybe it was a single catastrophic event. Maybe it was years of smaller things that nobody else would call trauma but shaped you just the same. The neglect that looked like busy parents. The criticism that sounded like high standards. The loneliness that felt normal because it was all you knew.
Your nervous system is still braced for what happened then. It doesn't know the danger's passed. That's not irrationality. That's how trauma works.
We meet weekly or twice-weekly and work at the pace your system can tolerate. Not pushing through, not flooding you with what you're not ready to feel. Trauma work has to happen slowly enough that you don't re-traumatise yourself in the process.
Sometimes we'll talk about what happened. But often we'll work with what's happening now: the way your body tightens when you talk about certain things, the sudden shifts in the room, the moments you disappear even though you're sitting right there.
The relationship matters here. Trauma usually happens in relationships, and it heals in them too. Learning that someone can witness what you carry without turning away, that you can feel what you feel without the world ending, that you're not as alone with it as you thought.
This work asks a lot of you. It means touching places that hurt. It means feeling things you've spent years not feeling. But it also means finally setting down what you've been carrying alone.