Therapy for Neurodivergent Adults
When masking is exhausting you
You've spent your life learning to pass. Reading social cues like a second language, forcing eye contact even though it feels wrong, dimming the intensity that makes you you. It works, mostly. But it's wearing you down.
Maybe you were diagnosed as a child. Maybe you've only just realised as an adult why everything has always felt harder for you than it seems for everyone else. Either way, you're tired of performing neurotypical and wondering why you can't just be normal.
Most therapy for neurodivergent people focuses on skills: how to socialise better, how to stay organised, how to manage sensory overload. As if the problem is that you haven't learned the right techniques yet.
But you don't need more productivity hacks. You need space to untangle what's actually yours from what you've absorbed about being "too much" or "not enough." The shame that came from being misunderstood for years. The exhaustion of chronic masking. The grief for the easier life you see other people having.
I can't diagnose neurodivergence - I'm not qualified to. But I can work with you if you already know or suspect you're neurodivergent, whether that's ADHD, autism, dyslexia, or something else. The work isn't about fixing your brain. It's about understanding how you've been shaped by living in a world that wasn't built for you.
If you're specifically looking for support around ADHD or autism, I've written separate pages about working with each.
We meet weekly or twice-weekly and work with what you're actually struggling with: relationships that keep going wrong in familiar ways, work that drains you, the sense that you're fundamentally different and nobody quite gets it.
I won't assume I understand your experience. Neurodivergence isn't a single thing - your particular wiring, your particular history, the particular ways you've learned to cope all matter. But we'll pay attention to how constantly adapting to a neurotypical world has shaped you.
Maybe you learned early that your natural way of being was wrong. That your interests were too intense, your needs too demanding, your way of processing too slow or too fast. Maybe you built an entire persona around being acceptable and lost track of who you actually are underneath.
The work is about separating what's yours from what was imposed. About finding what actually works for you rather than what you think should work. About grieving what you've had to give up to fit in, and figuring out what you might want back.
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Note: I can't provide ADHD or autism assessments - I'm not qualified to diagnose. If you need a formal assessment, I can point you towards appropriate services. But if you already know or strongly suspect you're neurodivergent, we can work together on what that means for you.