Online therapy for expats
Therapy in English for expats in Dubai
You moved to Dubai for the money. The tax-free salary, the luxury lifestyle made perfect sense on paper. So why does it feel so empty?
The golden handcuffs
You're probably earning more than you ever imagined possible. Nice flat in Marina or Downtown, regular holidays to places you only dreamed about before, savings account that would make your friends back home quietly envious. From the outside, you've won. You've made it.
But there's something underneath that feels rotten.
Dubai promises you can have it all, but what it actually delivers is a life that looks successful from the outside whilst feeling completely hollow from within. You're performing prosperity whilst privately wondering if you've traded something essential for a tax exemption and year-round sunshine. The visa ties you to your employer like an electronic leash. Your salary bracket determines your social value. Your job title opens doors that slam shut the moment you leave the company. Everything about you, your personality, your values, your actual interests, becomes secondary to your professional usefulness.
That works fine until you realise you've spent three years optimising your career whilst your actual self has slowly disappeared. You've become very good at being productive and completely unable to remember what you actually care about beyond the next promotion.
What nobody admits about expat life in Dubai
The city is designed for people passing through, not people living. Everything is artificial - the temperature controlled, the grass imported, the community manufactured. You're permanently foreign in a place that doesn't really have a culture, just an economy.
The expat hierarchy is brutal and unspoken. How long you've been here. Which company you work for. Where you live - Marina? Springs? Palm? What car you drive. Your visa status. It all gets catalogued and measured within minutes of meeting someone new. Everyone's performing successful integration whilst privately googling "how to leave Dubai without destroying my career."
Your relationship with home becomes complicated in ways that blindside you. Going back feels parochial and small - the weather's grey, salaries are laughable, everyone's complaining about nothing. But Dubai never feels real either. You're caught between a life that feels too limited and one that feels too artificial. Neither place is home anymore.
The particular depression of having everything
This isn't about gratitude or perspective. Sometimes having everything you thought you wanted just makes the emptiness more obvious. When external success doesn't fix internal problems, you're forced to confront the uncomfortable possibility that the problem might be you.
The heat that never lets up. The superficiality of conversations at brunch. The constant performance of happiness, of having made the right choice, of living your best life. It all compounds into a peculiar kind of suffocation. You're living in a shopping mall pretending to be a city, surrounded by other people who are also pretending everything's amazing. And beneath the Instagram-perfect surface, you're quietly drowning.
The exhaustion isn't from working hard. It's from performing a version of yourself that's acceptable here, ambitious, relentlessly positive, grateful for the opportunity, whilst the real you suffocates somewhere underneath. The conversations at networking events where people's eyes glaze over if you're not in finance or real estate. The friends who disappear when you change jobs or companies. The dawning realisation that this city doesn't see you as a person. It sees you as a function.
What psychodynamic therapy actually addresses
This isn't about adjusting to Dubai life or learning to love the city. It's about understanding why success feels suffocating, why money doesn't fix emptiness, and why you feel more trapped now than you did before you had all this supposed freedom.
Psychodynamic therapy looks at what happens when you get everything you thought you wanted and discover it's not enough. Not the surface-level explanations, stress, homesickness, culture shock, but the deeper patterns. Why external achievement doesn't touch internal emptiness. What you were actually running from when you took that contract, and why it followed you here. The cost of abandoning yourself to maintain a lifestyle that looks perfect from the outside. The pattern of chasing the next promotion, the next upgrade, the next milestone, whilst avoiding the question of what any of it is actually for.
Often, Dubai becomes a place where you can run very fast whilst going nowhere meaningful. The work is about understanding what you're running from and why you keep choosing contexts where real intimacy and authenticity feel impossible. The goal isn't to fix your expat experience. It's to help you stop abandoning yourself in service of maintaining your lifestyle. Sometimes that means finding a way to stay that doesn't require you to disappear. Sometimes it means admitting you need to leave. Often, it means recognising that the problem isn't the location - it's the pattern you keep repeating.
Why therapy in English matters
You need to be able to express the complexity of feeling simultaneously privileged and miserable, successful and suffocated, free and trapped. That requires nuance that's hard to achieve in your second language. You also need someone who understands that your problems aren't solved by gratitude or perspective. That having everything you thought you wanted and still feeling empty isn't ingratitude - it's information. Sometimes the life that looks perfect from the outside genuinely is killing you from the inside, and pretending otherwise doesn't help.
I'm a UK-trained psychodynamic therapist offering online therapy to expats in Dubai and international clients worldwide. This is psychodynamic work, which means we look at patterns rather than just symptoms. Why you chose Dubai. Why success feels like suffocation. Why you keep optimising your external life whilst your internal life withers.
The details:
- Format: Weekly online sessions (50 minutes) at the same time each week
- Credentials: BACP registered; currently undertaking advanced training at Tavistock Relationships
- Fees: £70 for individual therapy, £100 for couples therapy
- Availability: Worldwide (excluding USA and Canada)
- Time zones: Sessions available during Dubai-friendly hours
- Internet considerations: Standard video calling platforms work for therapy sessions. If you have concerns about online privacy in the UAE, we can discuss secure connection options
You don't need to choose between financial success and emotional honesty. But you might need help figuring out how to have both - or help accepting that you can't have both in your current situation.
Book a session
If you're ready to stop performing and start understanding what's actually going on, you can book an initial session online.